“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Love never fails.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)
How many of us can honestly say we will wait for the mate God chooses for us? We’d like to say yes, but too often we grow impatient with God and go searching for love on our own. That’s when the trouble begins— the high divorce rates, the unwed pregnancies, the baby mama/daddy drama, the petty competitions between ex and current lovers, the baggage brought into new relationships, the rampant spread of sexually transmitted diseases. All of this could have been avoided if we had just waited on God.
“They that wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” (Isaiah 40:31; KJV)
Ladies, I understand your struggle. You feel like you’re running out of time. You watch as friends, family members, old classmates get married and have children, and you wonder why you can’t have the same, why you’re still alone. You see that one ex you thought you were going to marry and start a family with marry the woman he left you for, and you think that God is playing some kind of sick joke on you. Each birthday a new candle is lit for you to blow out, marking another year you’ve gone without bearing a child, and you wonder if it’s too late. Has that ideal, child-bearing age finally slipped away? Is there a way to have a child without having that husband that God seems too unwilling to provide. But before you go to that clinic or that sperm bank, remember Sarah bore Isaac at the very advanced age of ninety. You still have plenty of time.
Don’t assume that you are destined to be alone. God created Eve for the sole purpose that man would not be alone. There is a man out there for whom you were meant to be a helpmeet (Genesis 2:18), but rushing love trying to find him will only stall your anticipated meeting.
When we rush love before its time, we end up moving several steps backwards. Now God must take more time to cleanse us of the baggage we created trying to find love on our own before He can present us to our one true mate. We create conflict when we step outside the will of God. Just think, if Abraham and Sarah had trusted and believed that God would bless them with a son in their old age, there would have never been the issue of Hagar and Ishmael.
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your paths.” (Proverbs 3: 5-6; NKJV)
Ladies, you are worth the wait. Don’t think that God has abandoned you. When God decides that you are ready, your husband will come for you. As it is written three times in the Song of Songs, “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires” (Song of Songs 2:7, 3:5, 8:4).