Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them! He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at the city gates.
Psalm 127: 3-5 (NLT)
Happy Father’s Day! Sometimes I think Father’s Day is the most overlooked and unacknowledged holiday on our calendar, especially in comparison to its counterpart holiday in the previous month. Single mothers expect to be honored both on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day for having to play both roles for their children. People turn to social media to sarcastically shout out their deadbeat dads on the only day they ever get to see them. Fathers are disrespected year-round, but on this day, the contempt is even more blatant.
Some of the first Bible verses we teach our children when they’re young are the Ten Commandments. Have we forgotten what the fifth commandment tells us? “Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you” (Exodus 20: 12).
Fathers are a crucial part in the framework of the Christian home. 1 Corinthians 11:3 says, “the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” When the man wanders from Christ, it affects the entire family, breaking it apart, and it is very hard to recover from a broken family. This is why the enemy will typically target men first.
Yes, there are some deadbeats out there, fathers who, for some reason, chose not to be in their children’s lives. And although the mother has to assume the role of both mother and father, today is not the day to voice her bitterness towards him, or allow her children to do so either. It may not be her original intention, but her resentment towards the father can have a negative impact on the children’s lives. We don’t want to teach our daughters that raising a child without a father is OK, that she is better off without the dad, or that all men are deadbeat sperm donors. We don’t want to teach our sons to only be part of their children’s lives on special holidays, to expect the mother to do all the work raising the children—his mother did it all by herself with no help, so surely the mother of his children can also, right? We don’t want to teach our sons that it’s OK to abandon his family because his dad was never there to teach him discipline or responsibility, and his mother was too busy complaining. Let’s not open up our homes and allow the enemy to cause further damage to the family.
We may not always like it, but today is a day for FATHERS! The one’s both present and absent. Pray that the absent father will one day come back into his child’s life for good, but in the meantime, honor the fathers who are there—grandfathers, uncles, father figures, and of course, our Father in Heaven.