“How can a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed according to Your word. With my whole heart I have sought You; Oh let me not wander from Your commandments! Your word I have hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against You.”
Psalms 119:9-11 (NKJV)
Good morning, everyone! Today’s Sunday Morning Word is dedicated to the boys, the men, and the boys who claim to be men. This poem comes from Phil Allen and is entitled “When I Became a Man.”
A few Sundays ago, I said that men are spiritually under attack. Why did I say that? Just look at that news. Look at Facebook and Twitter. Better yet, look outside your bedroom window! What happened? When did men turn from protectors and providers to murderers , thieves, and rapists? The Bible says to flee such things, and “pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, gentleness” (1 Timothy 6:11).
No boy should aspire to be like Stevie J from Love and Hip Hop Atlanta. A man who has more than one child by more than one woman. A man who completely humiliated his girlfriend on national television by cheating with another woman, getting her pregnant, and making her get an abortion. And when news surfaced that his now wife cheated on him with another man and got pregnant, he had the audacity to say that he’ll never trust women. Um, Stevie J, what about all of the women who will never trust men because of what you did to them?
Then there’s the men who give women so much power over them that one word, “No,” will push them to kill those women, kill innocent people, and/or kill themselves.
What happened, men? This is not the behavior of a people who’s head is supposed to Christ. The Bible says that husbands “ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church” (Ephesians 5:28-29). A few years ago, my pastor did a series on marriage, and during a sermon in that series, he said something that still sticks with me today: Wives are a reflection of their husbands. Now, I’m sure that phrase has probably been said before, but let’s think about that in relation to the above verse. If you’re always complaining about your wife or girlfriend— she doesn’t do this, she doesn’t do that, she’s always mad, she’s always complaining, she makes it hard to come home sometimes—instead of throwing all the blame on her, look within, because you may have created this monster you claim lives in your house. Are you nourishing and cherishing her, as Jesus does the church, or are you always mad, whining, and complaining? Do you make it difficult for her to want to welcome you home with open arms everyday? Think about it.
Read your Bibles, men. Don’t look to movies, reality TV, the internet, or people who are just as confused as you are to learn what a man is supposed to be. “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night” (Psalms 1:1-2).